Glam gran Gaynor Evans estimates she’s dated over 100 toy boys in the last five years
Having the best sex of her life with men half her age, 56-year-old Gaynor says dating toy boys makes her feel sexy and empowered.
The grandmother of three has gone out with men 30 years her junior and says the benefits of dating younger men are obvious.
‘It’s fairly simple really,’ she says. ‘They’re young, fit, and fun! Younger men have got stamina, drive, enthusiasm and are able to repeat perform.’
After two failed marriages, Gaynor, from Enfield, says she has a ‘renewed vigour’ courtesy of her baby-faced beaus and makes no apologies for her behaviour.
‘I don’t want to age gracefully, I’m quite happy to be a disgrace,’ she insists.
Describing herself as ‘firing on all cylinders’, Gaynor says younger men are attracted to older women because they know what they want and aren’t trying to tie them down.
‘Older women are confident in our own skins, there’s no dancing around. We know what we’re going to do and how to do it.
‘We’re not pinning them down for dates, we’re not chasing them on the phone or saying, “What are you doing this weekend, where are you taking me?”’
Gaynor meets her toy boys on nights out, through hook-up app Tinder and specialist dating website toyboywarehouse.com – for which she is also an agony aunt – and goes on a couple of dates a week, though it can be more.
‘I always have a few on the go. I’m not saying you sleep with one one night, another the next, but over the course of a month you might see a couple of different people.’
The cougar prefers to go out with men between the ages 25-35 because they have more passion – and not just in the bedroom.
‘Younger men always look forward, they are telling you things they are going to do, where they are going. They are talking about today and tomorrow whereas older guys talk about today in a fairly negative way and go on about what they used to do in the past.’
Apart from age, the raunchy recruiter doesn’t have a specific type. She’s been out with lawyers, bankers and fitness instructors from all over the world.
‘I prefer tall and intelligent but other than that I have dated dark, blond and a really fit ginge! I love muscles but don’t really mind if they are lean – as long as they are keen.’
Although the physical side is important to Gaynor, it’s not all about sex.
‘I’m not good with people I can’t relate to. I like a brain. I like the intelligence,’ she says.
Gaynor met her first husband as a teenager and was married by age 18.
After having three children together, the marriage started to have its difficulties and ended.
The grandmother then fell into another relationship almost immediately with a man 18 years her junior who became husband number two.
The marriage lasted nearly 20 years and the couple had a son together. But when that too ended in divorce Gaynor decided her love life needed a rethink.
‘I thought: “I’m not going to let this get me down, I’m just going to have to turn this around”, so I reinvented myself – lost weight, went to the beautician’s and started going out with my daughters, who at that point were in their late 20s, early 30s, because my good friends were all settled with their husbands or partners.’
Young men would approach her and after initially rebuffing their efforts, Gaynor decided to give them a chance.
She says: ‘In the early days when I was newly single, I was a bit wild. I’d never had a one-night stand in my youth – I didn’t know what they were – though obviously I do now.’
Despite her carefree approach, Gaynor admits getting too involved with some of her toy boys.
‘These boys don’t intentionally hurt you and you have to keep your feet on the ground – even if you’ve got your legs in the air – but you have to be real about it.
‘You’re not going to keep hold of them in the real world.’
Family still ‘come first’ for the matriarch. She’s a proud grandmother and her youngest son, age 24, still lives at home.
‘When his friends are round I go into mother mode. I smother them and I don’t even visualise them in any other way than I am the mum,’ she insists.
Close to her two daughters, Gaynor enjoys going on nights out with them but admits eldest daughter Laura, 37, didn’t always approve of her mum’s behaviour.
‘I just wanted my mum to be normal,’ says Laura. ‘I thought why couldn’t she just find a man that’s a similar age and maybe wants to settle down?’
But she now accepts her mum’s wild ways – although she still doesn’t want to see Gaynor in pulling mode…
‘If I’m out with my mum she might have an encounter or a kiss but I don’t like that in front of my face.’
While Gaynor admits her toy boy liaisons are unlikely to have a long-term future, she isn’t ready to give up her younger men just yet.
‘It’s not worth worrying about what other people think about you. You’ve got to do what makes you happy – and young toy boys make me very happy.’