Kaylee Moats is suffering from an extremely rare condition.
The 21-year-old was born with MRKH, meaning that she doesn’t have a uterus, cervix or vagina. But surprisingly, Kaylee was only diagnosed with the condition around 3 years ago.
She explains, ‘I was around 18 when I discovered I had MRKH. When I didn’t get my period but my 12-year-old sister did we decided to go to the gynecologist where they did an ultrasound and discovered I didn’t have a uterus, or a cervix and vaginal opening and wouldn’t be able to carry my own children.’
‘It makes me feel less of a woman because I can’t do what women are supposed to do. You’re supposed to be able to carry children, and create a family and have an intimate relationship and I can’t provide that.’
Despite being devastated by her life-changing diagnosis, brave Kaylee stayed positive and made plans to have reconstructive surgery in which doctors would create her a vaginal canal. But she was left disappointed after her medical insurer refused to cover the cost of her expensive surgery.
Kaylee says, ‘they consider it cosmetic surgery or a gender reassignment – which it’s not. It’s very hurtful the fact that I have to pay $15,000 for the surgery, right out of college when I already have a bunch of student loans. It’s very hard on our family and hard on me.’
Her mum, Laura, adds, ‘health insurance companies will cover things like vasectomies or they will cover them to go on their Viagra pills yet they won’t cover something like this which is so necessary to a relationship. It’s heartbreaking and frustrating.’
Now, Kaylee has been left with no choice but to raise the funds for the surgery herself. Her sister Amanda has set up a Go Fund Me page to help, and one of the most dedicated donors is Kaylee’s besotted boyfriend Robbie Limmer.
Well aware of the difficulties Kaylee’s condition would pose when it came to the sexual side of their relationship, Robbie has stood by Kaylee as a constant source of support.
Kaylee says, ‘when Robbie and I first started dating really all I could think about most of the time was when I was going to tell him, how he would react and if he would still want to be with me.’
‘Knowing that he accepts me for who I am and doesn’t see me as less of a person or less of a woman makes me feel loved.’
Robbie adds, ‘when she told me I had already grown to love this person so it’s not going to make me love you any less and I will be there every step of the way for you. It didn’t really change my feelings about her.’
‘I’m amazed that she hasn’t let this define her. She’s one of the nicest people that I know and one of the most caring people that I’ve ever met. She inspires me everyday to be more like that.’
For now, Kaylee hopes to lead as normal a life as possible, and remains positive that one day she will be able to have both an intimate relationship, and her own biological children.
‘In the future I hope to have my own family and have a child of my own DNA but if that doesn’t work, because sometimes surrogacy doesn’t always work, then I hope to adopt and not have MRKH define me’, she says.
‘I’m still trying to accept myself, accept what I have and not dwell on it.’